I learned a few things over the years. Here are some of the top secrets of what you’ve got stop doing in order to master this caregiving thing: (If you missed the first 3 tips check out part 1 here)
4. Making decisions based on the media – social media, news or any other type of media.
- Constantly engaging in this type of media will have you constantly spinning your wheels and forces you to move and make decisions out of fear.
- Be careful of the source and the validity of the information.
5. Worrying about the many things that are outside of your control. ( Confession folks – I’m still working on this one but acknowledging is half the battle 😉
- Things will happen as they may. Let’s face it, most of what you worry about doesn’t even happen. Am I right?
- Worry is like sitting in a rocking chair – You are moving but you aren’t going anywhere!!!! (Memo to self – stop rocking and start rolling – you have much to do 😉 )
6. Don’t get caught up in “they say” (Ok ok.. pause here – Truth moment: I get caught up here too). Here’s my question – Who is “they”? and why am I trying to do everything that “they say”? Hmmm!!
- They probably did “that” because that was best in “that” moment for “their” situation. But it may not be the best course of action for you. Take it in but only apply if it works for you.
- It’s ok if you choose a different route or option. Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty if you choose to do something different other than what family or friends recommend. They may have the best of intentions but it may not be the right option for your situation.
- Some things need to be tailored to your specific situation ie: estate planning, care planning, disease management, etc. Consult an expert and don’t be subject to someone’s suggested “rules of thumb”. It may or just may not apply.
This is the 2nd post in a series of 4. Stay tuned for the next installment.