So you fell into this role and you’re basically flying by the seat of your pants. I know it’s tough. You may receive lots or very little advice from friends and loved ones. You may even read what’s in the news and that leads you to feel anxious or filled with worry. Believe me I’ve been there and I still have my moments. However, you can’t help others if your cup stays empty because it’s being drained by people, places or things that you’ve made a priority over what’s really important.
I learned a few things over the years. Here are some of the top secrets of what you’ve got stop doing in order to master this caregiving thing:
1. Making decisions based on the news & current events
- This leads to scary, defeatous thoughts and anxiety – You deserve peace and joy in your daily life.
- Watch the news less, try not to consume it before bed for a more restful sleep.
2.Trying to time the right time to get or do something
- The best time is right NOW! – Point blank. There doesn’t ever seem to be a good time to do anything. I’m still learning this!
- There will always be something that comes up and will always be pulling you in different directions. Carve out time and get it done NOW!
3. Basing things solely on past occurrences.
- The only thing that is constant is change.
- Life is a fluid thing, if we only rely on reflection on thngs that we did or didn’t do, we can never move forward. Breathe, accept and let it go.
- Plan for reasonable goals with realistic time frames, not based on other people’s experiences. What do you need? What do you want? No more excuses!
Design a plan that allows you to have joy in your life. Constantly doing everything for others and not doing anything for yourself leaves you on empty.
Remember you must fill your cup!
This is the first post in a series of four. Stay tuned for next the installment.